October 22, 2012 by lauralesterfournier
As politicians try to spin women’s rights in one direction or another, we are hearing a great deal about abortion and contraception in the news. I’m frankly insulted to have the spotlight so lazer focused on my vagina and you should be too. Ladies……it’s time to take back our dignity and self-respect. The question we need to ask ourselves at this point is “Who are we?” and “What will be our legacy?” More than 3,100 abortions happen each day in the United States, that’s more than 1.21 million every year. Of these abortions, the largest demographic are young women between the ages of 20-24 and pregnant inside of the first 9 weeks of life; 37% of women have had a previous abortion or birth; 36% are white, 30% are black, and 25% are Hispanic. According to an Alan Guttmacher Institute survey, nearly 1/2 of all women who sought an abortion said they had used no birth control during the month they had conceived. Only 5% of abortions are performed for the mother-to-be’s physical or psychological welfare. Pregnancies that stem from rape or incest account for only 1% of all abortions and 82% of all women who seek abortion are unmarried. These statistics beg the question, is abortion an appropriate form of birth control?
It’s long past time for us to take a deep look at our sexuality and how we use it. Conceiving life should not be an “oops” moment to the tune of 1.21 million abortions per year. Aren’t we smarter than this? Are we not in more control of our personal faculties than this? Even if the government decides to stop taking taxpayer dollars to fund Plan Parenthood, the option to have an abortion will certainly still exist….you’ll just need to pony-up the cash yourself. The average cost of an abortion in the first-trimester is $350-$550.00. Perhaps young women should take a closer look at their own financial responsibility for the free will choice of being sexually active.
Now on to contraceptives! Let’s try to remove some more myths here – a package of Lifestyles Pleasure Collection Condoms costs $8.99 for a 30-pack; I’m sure a savvy shopper could find any number of deals in these modern day gems, perhaps one might even land a coupon! Birth Control Pills run approximately $15.-$50.00 per month. If you do not have insurance you will need to pay for your examination prior to getting your birth control pill prescription, and this will run you anywhere from $35.-$250.00. Again, there is a cost for being sexually active; the cost is physical, emotional, and yes…..financial. It is every woman’s personal responsibility to take care of these details herself. It is not the government’s responsibility to fund your sex life.
When are we going to start honoring our bodies, our Spirits, and the Sacred gift of life? When are we going to exercise restraint and think about the consequences of our actions? It’s plain and simple, this is about Mindfulness. To young women I say this; give some thought to who you are and wait until you are In Love to Make Love. Plan on how you are going to prevent an unwanted pregnancy BEFORE becoming sexually active. Do all this and yet still, there is something you should know about being sexually active…….even if you use birth control……you may still become pregnant. Before you become sexually active, ask yourself if you are ready to be a Mother? An abortion is something you can’t take back; it is a permanent scar on your heart, mind, and body. Mothers need to speak with their daughters early-on about their views on sexuality. Women must start talking more openly about who we are we and who we want to be. 1.21 million abortions a year is tragic on so many levels; emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Is this really what we want to perpetuate? It’s time to represent ourselves with dignity. It’s time to carry ourselves with respect. It’s time to honor the fact that we as women “give life” and we should be outraged as women by the amount of abortions for convenience that are carried out each year.
If you cannot afford a baby or birth control, then you cannot afford to be sexually active. Your hormones may be strong…..But your common sense needs to be stronger. Women need to stop hiding behind a “right to choose” and instead start making the right choices. Be the person your unborn children will be proud of, only you can do this.